I can't remember exactly what I countered with, but that comment stuck with me for a long while. Could people really think that two women who love each other are really being "unfair" to bring a child into a loving home, where it will be cared for and loved and taken care of?
What about women who bring babies into this world while addicted to drugs, so their babies are addicted to drugs. Isn't that unfair? ..Women who bring babies into this world who are completely malnourished and were irresponsible and did not get any sort of prenatal care. (I know that could spark a huge debate... but it's definitely been proven that women who take advantage of prenatal care give birth to much healthier babies). What about women who get pregnant and don't want their kid, so they stuff it in a dumpster or leave it in the toilet.
I just don't see how bringing a baby into a loving home with two parents to care for it and nurture it could be a bad thing. Yes, sometimes it will get complicated. Yes, sometimes it will be hard to explain to your child why all of their friends have a "Daddy" (or a "Mommy" for that matter). No, your child might not have a same-sex role model very early on in their life, but that is what Uncles and Aunts and Grandpa's and Grandma's are for.
From the American Psychological Association:
"Patterson's and others' findings that good parenting, not a parent's sexual orientation, leads to mentally healthy children may not surprise many psychologists. What may be more surprising is the finding that children of same-sex couples seem to be thriving, though they live in a world that is often unaccepting of their parents."
I feel a little bit better.