Sunday, February 24, 2008

Frustrations

I like to think of myself as a person that anyone (even someone who doesn't know me very well) could call at anytime, and I'll be there to help you.  If you need a ride somewhere, give me a call.  If you have a problem that you need to talk out, if you need to borrow some money (I'm pretty broke but I do what I can), if you need an opinion about something, just let me know.  Seriously, if you need anything, you can pretty much count on me.  I have even done really gross things to help my friends or help preserve their dignity -- INCLUDING wiping butts, cleaning up vomit on the floor - on the toilet- on your shirt- dribbling down your face, holding hair back during vomiting, assuring that you don't need to go to the hospital to get your stomach pumped, because if you are TELLING me that you are so drunk that you need your stomach pumped, then you definitely do NOT need your stomach pumped.  I have looked at "that funny mark" on your butt cheek (TMI, I know, but seriously I did it) and I have scrubbed the feces off the wall that was smeared there when you passed out on the toilet and hit the wall and slid down (?? I was just as confused as all of you.)  

SO.  Usually, you can count on me for anything.  All that I ask is that you return the favor if I need a small favor or even if I just need a friend at some point.  Almost all of my friends are wonderful, and are just as helpful, caring, and uninhibited when it comes to lending me a helping hand.  However, I have one friend who must think that the earth revolves around her, every single person she knows should be there to drop everything and help her when she requests it, and even when a friend does help her, she is unappreciative and tends to complain that you are "doing it wrong" or "you could have done this better", etc. etc.  It really hurts my feelings, but I sort of HAVE to be friends with this person.  I can't really explain why on here because my readership has grown to include many people that know this person, and I don't want to get myself in trouble.

I'm not one to complain, but this just frustrates me, and honestly, it really hurts my feelings when I will lay anything out on the line for you and help you and assure you, however when I need one small favor you can't even follow through on it, or not even a favor.. just, if you screw something up that belongs to me, you don't even offer to help fix it or even just help the situation.  

Sigh.  I guess that's enough ranting for today.  Sorry for the ranting post, sometimes I just need to get it out of me.  Hopefully things will improve soon.  If not, I'm going to have to seriously rethink future plans...

4 comments:

Lindsey said...

that's annoying...also, you're a better friend than i - i do not do bodily substances.

kelly. said...

you are a good friend... i can barely deal with puke. haha..

love youu.

elaina said...

I know exactly what that feels like, and it is very frustrating. But you need to think of all the people you love to help, and how many of them truly appreciate who you are and what you do for them.

p.s. I have some unfortunate stories I could use to match yours...haha, you're not the only one there.

love & miss :)

meghan said...

Kris,
There is a VERY simple solution to this problem. Stop being her friend. Seriously, she sounds like she adds nothing but negativity and stress to your life. It is a very adult decision to decide to remove someone from your life, but as you get older, sometimes you have to put yourself first and let go of toxic people. It is hard, but worth it. Let her clean up her OWN shit.
Love you.